Are Men Necessary? Sexual Politics in the Windy City


As any regular reader of this fine blog knows, when I am not fomenting revolution I am expending an equal amount of energy in an attempt to understand and woo the opposite sex. So it is with much interest that I have read and pondered the latest slew of articles, books and blogs exploring relationships, female sexuality and sexual politics.

An editorial in yesterday

13 Comments so far

  1. Fuzzy (unregistered) on November 3rd, 2005 @ 3:23 pm

    tinyluckygenius is having a good discussion of the Dowd article:

  2. nikkos (unregistered) on November 3rd, 2005 @ 3:34 pm

    Thanks Fuzzy!

  3. steven (unregistered) on November 3rd, 2005 @ 5:08 pm

    It’s a gas reading all these articles dissecting the male/female relationship. Frankly, I think too many of us have hidden agendas, skeletons in the closets, and reasons to lie that prevent us from being honest with each other. If we all just realized that the majority of us are afraid of something, have insecurities to some degree and that we just want to be loved, it’d be a lot easier to get along. And that’s just the start…

  4. nikkos (unregistered) on November 4th, 2005 @ 9:44 am

    First, thanks Steven for your honest and heartfelt sentiment. I agree wholeheartedley and thank you for getting the ball rolling Ladies, this is a quality guy here- drop him a line!

    A note to all potential commenters: unlike my political posts, I’m not looking for a knock-down, drag-out debate here- I’m looking for dialogue. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, so please, feel free to share your thoughts without fear of having to fight tooth and nail to defend your perspective- just sharing your perspective is enough!

  5. Kidder (unregistered) on November 4th, 2005 @ 11:12 am

    OK- I will share my thoughts on this. I don’t think there is a cut and dry answer here and I have a lot of opinions about it.

  6. Diana (unregistered) on November 4th, 2005 @ 11:30 am

    You’ve inspired me to expound at length here: – thanks for the thought-provoking questions. :)

  7. nikkos (unregistered) on November 4th, 2005 @ 1:21 pm

    Kidder, thanks for your comments- it’s been too long since we’ve seen you ’round these parts!

    Diana, thank you too for taking the ball and running with it! Dear readers, I highly recommend you take a moment and click through to Diana’s post on her blog.

    Keep the comments coming!

  8. Diana (unregistered) on November 4th, 2005 @ 4:03 pm

    Thank you kindly. :)

  9. James T. Struck (unregistered) on November 6th, 2005 @ 7:21 pm

    I only read the initial post because someone needs me to do laundry for them now. I have experienced hostility. I was prohibited from talking to students, staff and faculty at a job at IIT. One of the first things a coworker told me at my other job was “If you fell I would laugh.” No big deal though…just had some headaches and vomiting like many harrassed people have had over the years.

    As to whether men are necessary, physiologically and reproductively probably not entirely needed if we use cloning technology. (Just a scientific joke)

    As far as other things, I think yes. Walter Alvarez back in 1980 helped us realize that the dinosaurs were hurt by an asteroid and I lobbied for better asteroid detection in Fall 1992 and summer 1998. I got a thank you note from Dr. George Withbroe of NASA that summer about NASA’s work on detecting asteroids. Men have contributed many things over the years which is a fact not easily disputed. What is interesting is that some men are denied credit in any form similar to how women were excluded from positions of power in certain cultures. I guess that is what riots are about in Paris etc. people want to be important with food, jobs, lives, good jobs, friends.

    Some recent marriage amendment jokes (in case you are interested) I was telling are

    If I sent someone a lot of “I like you messages” then someone could claim they were married to me. The amendment says that marriage is the union of a man and a woman so that person could claim they were married. Federal law is seen often as more important than local law.

    If some body remained unmarried and did not want the government to collect social security, they could use Amendment 28 to gain social security benefits. She sent me a lot of nice notes. He sent me a lot of notes. We had a union of a man and a women.

    When a 1 km asteroid slams into the earth, I think men and women will be needed.

    I also joked about how I am united with bed mites and sewer animals. Sorry if that comment offends anyone.

    Great day.

    I was reminded of Walter Alvarez from a website just now. nice assist form yahoo

    James T. Struck

  10. James T. Struck (unregistered) on November 7th, 2005 @ 5:32 am

    I also want to make a note that I was forced or coerced to take medication in part because I told someone I loved them repeatedly. I grew up in a Catholic home, and I was trying to make some sense of the Golden Rule. The doctors later lied or gave misleading information about forcing medication. They treated a clear behavioral disorder about telling someone I liked them as a mental illness. I can no longer get medical insurance except through CHIPS because of their misdiagnosis.

    As a result, I made an hypothesis that legally I am safer saying “I am harrassing this evil person or terrorist by saying I love him repeatedly” than saying “I love you” repeatedly to a woman. Repeatedly saying you love someone results in accusations of being a sexual predator, while repeatedly saying I love you to an evil person or terrorist has no clear negative result. It is an hypothesis. I do not know how true the hypothesis is. Of course, saying you love a terrorist would result in the charge of supporting terrorism. That would mean jail too. The words “I love you” have become criminal words in some cultures.

    Another comment is that our Civil Rights Act of 1964 may actually promote detachment and damage some sort of brain development when applied too harshly. If every time someone touches a hand or touches a shoulder, it means job termination, human development and brain development may be damaged. I only mean if the application is too severe. There were studies in Austria a long time ago and many more recently how brain development needs touching or hugging during infancy. Adults are in my view at many times bigger children, so brain development in too draconian an harrassment culture may damage normal brain development. It is just an hypothesis which could be investigated.

    Have a riot or scream or drink rather than hold someone’s hand or hug someone. Hugging becomes a crime. Asking someone to the zoo becomes a crime sometimes. The dean at Boalt Hall was terminated for hugging or fondling a student. I was terminated in part for asking someone to the zoo and asking someone their name. There are brain development effects of such a sexual harrassment policy. I do not mean to promote inappropriate touching, but there are indeed brain development effects in infancy from lack of hugging someone else. I have no idea about study of such lack of hugging in adults. It would be an interesting defense of the Dean at Boalt Hall or myself that application of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 too harshly promotes brain deterioration.

  11. Huh (unregistered) on November 16th, 2005 @ 2:01 pm

    I think James that maybe there’s something you’re *not* telling us in all that you’ve revealed about yourself. Your posts come across the WWW as a bit weird, rambling, and solipsistic. All these digressions hinting at some kind of past victimization doesn’t vindicate you when no one knows what you’re talking about.

  12. site (unregistered) on February 21st, 2006 @ 10:55 pm

    The internet in general had existed ten years ago. Yo have nice site, admin!

  13. Search (unregistered) on February 21st, 2006 @ 11:57 pm

    Good stuff dude, thanks! Visit this site is very interested! Good stuff.

Terms of use | Privacy Policy | Content: Creative Commons | Site and Design © 2009 | Metroblogging ® and Metblogs ® are registered trademarks of Bode Media, Inc.